Getting healthy can stress you out. You might be reading that and shaking your head wondering, “What is she talking about? Getting healthy is wonderful!” but hear me out. When you’re in a committed relationship and you are not healthy (addiction, obesity, low self-esteem, or many possibilities) there’s a certain level of comfort. When one of the partners makes the decision to get healthy the comfort level is seriously altered. For the purposes of this blog, let’s call the partner that is making positive changes in their life the “healthy” partner and the healthy partner is on their journey for weight loss but this could play out in many ways–they could be eliminating alcohol, walking away from gambling or drugs, committing to getting therapy, or more.
Relationships have a balance in them. They’re like a teeter totter on
Imagine my shock when one day I woke up depressed. In case you didn’t know, I am a superhero in my own mind. I often claim I own a pair of tights and a cape–even though I’ve usually misplaced them. Hence my complete confusion when I was sitting in my living room on a Sunday night and realized I’m deeply depressed. My surprise comes from the fact that I had no idea. I was truly shocked. I’m a mom of two amazing kids, in a wonderful relationship with a man so perfect for me that I regularly pinch myself, I have a wonderful business as a Beachbody Coach, have over 15-years in my profession, have a collegiate degree in my profession from Michigan State University , and sit as President of a Board of professionals in my area. My life, overall, ROCKS.
What the heck is depressed?!?
I really just thought I was stressed out. I figured my oh-so-crazy life was just taking over and I needed to suck it up and push through. But, as the days went on, much was left undone but depression never occurred to me.
Body Beast FAQs: Most women don’t want to look like dudes. Let’s talk about this because this belief means many women won’t lift heavy weights because they are fearful of looking like men, looking too manly, or that their main squeeze won’t find them as attractive anymore. I just finished 90-days of lifting heavy–body builder style–and want to talk to you about what my concerns were and how they played out. If, after watching the video, you still have questions hit me up. I’d love to help clarify.
Part of my inspiration for this video and blog was the occasional reaction to my before & after pictures as some people found them to be “too much” for them. The video is longer than I prefer them to be–but I think you’ll find it interesting and useful–so go ahead and give it a try.
Collage of my Body Beast results
Areas that I struggled with and address in the video: eating enough calories, my relationship with my scale, how having muscle and adding mass effected my daily life, how my body responded to the additional muscle, how I feel about my new physique, what I’m doing next (and why).
Body Beast is meant for anyone who wants to add mass and muscle. It’s meant for people that have a relatively healthy relationship with the scale and with food. It’s meant for people that may have perceived themselves as a body builder in a previous life or have just wondered what in the heck lifting was all about. It’s meant for current and former gym rats (you can easily plug the DVD into a laptop/player and take it to the gym).
Especially considering ALL of the reservations I held going into this program–I found it to be a great program and meant for men, women, athletes, body builders, skinny dudes, buff dudes, women that want to be able to eat more and not freak out about their body burning the calories, women that have kids, women that buy groceries, and women that have dogs.
My ego kills me every time. And, the kicker of it is I used to think I didn’t have an ego to battle. I mean, not really. I figured since I wasn’t an ego maniac that meant that I didn’t have the troubles that many did. WRONG. Then, with some pushing from my Beachbody peeps, I attended a Dani Johnson event and my ego
DANG IT!!! I did it again. I committed to doing the Traverse City Triathlon then decided I wasn’t going to do it. Then, at the last minute, decided I was going to do it. This would be fine if I was talking about a commitment to mow the lawn, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or recycle every week. Not so much when the commitment is a triathlon. Yet, that’s what I did.
I am a pusher. I challenge people. I get them to do crap they normally wouldn’t do because…let’s face it…we’re all a bunch of insecure chickens at heart. We typically talk ourselves out of doing something long before we’ve even attempted to try it. I believe in you. I know you can do more (and yes, I mean you) than
People often look at successful people and think they live a blessed life, lucked into success, or that success was given to them. It’s easy to look at a financially fit person and determine they came from money. It’s common to look at a physically fit person and determine it’s their genes that make them that way. Without knowing better, we can look at a successful marriage and say they don’t have the troubles that we have communicating.
