Getting healthy can have hidden stresses.

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Getting healthy can have hidden stresses

Getting healthy can stress you out. You might be reading that and shaking your head wondering, “What is she talking about? Getting healthy is wonderful!” but hear me out. When you’re in a committed relationship and you are not healthy (addiction, obesity, low self-esteem, or many possibilities)  there’s a certain level of comfort. When one of the partners makes the decision to get healthy the comfort level is seriously altered. For the purposes of this blog, let’s call the partner that is making positive changes in their life the “healthy” partner and the healthy partner is on their journey for weight loss but this could play out in many ways–they could be eliminating alcohol, walking away from gambling or drugs, committing to getting therapy, or more.

 

Relationships have a balance in them. They’re like a teeter totter on

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Success is a journey

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People often look at successful people and think they live a blessed life, lucked into success, or that success was given to them. It’s easy to look at a financially fit person and determine they came from money. It’s common to look at a physically fit person and determine it’s their genes that make them that way. Without knowing better, we can look at a successful marriage and say they don’t have the troubles that we have communicating.

Myth. Myth. Myth.

Success in anything…

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Running in the Dark

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The day started as they normally did; a restless night’s sleep followed by an early morning with the Things before taking them to school, but something was not as it should have been. It was pecking at the corner of my brain like a black crow on roadkill…cannibalizing my mind. I was pacing in my house like I was caged and knew that I had to workout to work through it further and get to the root of the angst-of-the-day. I kicked around which workout to do (either Turbo Fire or Insanity Asylum) but I didn’t think what was going to be long enough to help me work through it. I opted for a run.

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Truth & Lies. Marriage & Divorce. Kids. Yeah………

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The voices in my head were LOUD today. Deafening. And before you contact my local authorities, you should know that I love the voices in my head and have no intention of taking a pill to send ’em packing. They amuse. They educate. They resonate. They make me look at me in a way that brings about growth and change. They’re AWESOMESAUCE! Today they were begging for a run. Since my back is out and I can’t kick my own butt with my usual favs (Turbo Fire & Insanity Asylum), I obliged the voices with a run.

Going into it, I knew it was gonna be a long run (my voices and I needed to have a serious chat). As I began to find my stride, I felt a little relief. I had no idea why I was out there other than I knew the answers would come and, for right now, it was my job to juggle the questions. One of my fav songs of all time–running or not–is Till I Collapse–Eminem (explicit) . My feet are in a perfect rhythm for me. I’m pumping…I’m breathing…I’m angry. I’m not at my personal revelation yet, but I’m starting.

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